You can learn my technique on how I never get angry or upset easily. Most of you watching this who know me personally have probably never seen me mad. And it’s true. I don’t get mad very often. It takes a lot for me to get upset. Wanna know my secret? Well, it comes down to my mindset, and hopefully by the end of this video, you’ll see how I think.
When I was in 9th grade, my mom and little brother were in a car accident.
I remember the phone call, I was so scared. I thought I was gonna lose them. The most frightening thought that ran through my head was “I’ll never get to talk to them again.” Almost losing someone that close is scary. What if you ended on a bad note?
Remember in one of my other videos, I said my senior quote was “appreciate what you have before time makes you appreciate what you had?”
The idea of that quote was to explain that if you aren’t appreciative of something when you have it, you’ll lose it and won’t have the opportunity to appreciate it later, because it’ll be gone. Whether that be someone in your life, like your girlfriend, something you own, like your car, or a part of you, like your hands. It could all be gone in a heartbeat. After it’s gone, you can’t continue to appreciate it, only what it used to be.
My second favorite quote is probably “you can’t be upset and grateful at the same time”. Here’s the secret. It’s true.
I’m grateful for my hands, my feet, my legs, and my nose.
My family, my car, my eyes, and my clothes.
My life, my friends, and my fingers and toes. I appreciate the sun, the sky, the moon and stars,
The ability to see my love from afar.
The fact that I have a roof over my head
And food in my fridge,
That I can sleep in a bed,
And not under a bridge.
You have to understand this. There are people who don’t have the ability to appreciate these things. People who were born at the wrong time and are now owned by an African government. People who have no legs or control of their hands. There are people who can’t even sit up out of bed, and you have the audacity to take it for granted and spend your energy being upset at someone? Forgive them for your own sake and start appreciating everything you’ve gracefully been given.
The next time you’re upset, find 10 things you’re grateful for, it’s harder than it sounds and you won’t be as upset by the time you’re done listing them. I challenge you to try it in the comments.
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